LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP.

Love is found everywhere and with technology, it has been easier for people to connect with each other from around the world. There are many dating websites that make it easier to find who you’re compatible with by giving a little insight into yourself. The dating world can be very difficult and more difficult when you’re in a long-distance relationship; especially when you are in different time zones. From my personal experience, it’s been quite difficult, although I must state that we didn’t start off as a long distance relationship. Time zone played a huge factor in the relationship. Depending on daylight savings day, he was 6 or 7 hours ahead of me. We were already dating for about a year when he had to go back home for work. At first, I wasn’t sure how I could make it. I thought to myself, how do army wives go through this? After a couple of months, we both started to get used to it. Here’s what I learned and what you need to know.

TRUST

Of course, trust plays a huge part in any relationship but that is truly tested in LDRs. You start to think who your significant other could possibly be with, or what they are doing. This is where you give your all into trust and hope that either party doesn’t end up breaking it. It is very important that trust should not be broken because even if the relationship advances forward there will be trust issues in the future. Trust is the foundation of a relationship.

COMMUNICATION

All you have at the moment is communication. You have to make sure that you keep that alive. Even when one person is busier than the other, make some time to communicate that and let them know when a good time would be. Make facetime dates or watch a movie together on the phone. There might not be any physical touch but communication is so vital in a long distance relationship. Don’t ever let your significant other feel as though they aren’t important enough to get a phone call from you.  communicating what you’re doing throughout the day makes your significant other feel as though they are part of your life.

PLAN

This goes out to all the LDRs that began online. Make sure that there is a plan of meeting or a plan of coming together, a plan for the future. Don’t be given false hope and waste time on something that possibly will not happen, plan for the future together. When conversating about the future listen for keywords such as marriage, our house, our future, our vacation etc. Another thing that needs to be planned is trips to see each other. Make time or even a schedule, maybe every other month or so to see each other.  I know it can be difficult especially when you’re on two different continents. In that case, it doesn’t have to be every other month, especially when tickets prices can be quite expensive. All in all, just make sure you have some planned time for each other.

HARD WORK

LDRs are hard work!!!!!! Both partners need to put in work. It is not easy and I personally think it’s harder being in a long-distance relationship.  What helps is trying to think about your future (the bigger picture). It will all be worth it at the end of the day, especially if both partners are working hard on making the future happen.

Lastly, STAY POSITIVE! try not to let negative thoughts in. Make sure to keep love alive. Communicate and work hard to make sure the future happens. It’s a journey but it might just be worth it at the end.

 

Have you ever been in a long distance relationship? what are your thoughts? did it or is it working out?

 

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